Lowkey is the way forward.
When I sit down to write these every week, I get this moment where my mind goes blank for a minute and I think “What am I going to write about?” I then think back across my week and there’s normally something I’ve been thinking about all week. Normally it’s a phrase, a question I keep asking myself or something I’ve spotted that a lot of people. Most of the time I don’t even realise that I’ve been thinking about something a lot until I look back on the week and connect the dots.
Anyway, that’s where this weeks post has come from. Enjoy.
In the eyes of most people that know me, most of the time I come across as quiet and reserved. It’s not always intentional but it tends to happen because I’m a thinker, I spend a lot of time inside my own head pondering those things that I’ve listed above. Especially over the last 6 months to a year, I’ve become a lot quieter because I’ve been trying to focus on only talking when I need to and when I do speak, it’s something constructive, positive, meaningful, etc. For a long time I would talk at any opportunity and fill awkward gaps with words because I felt I needed to.
We live in a society where material things are a representation of how well a person is doing and social media has only allowed people to amplify this. You can go on social media at any point during the day and you’ll be able to find someone who intentionally (or unintentionally for that matter) showing off their material posesions. I’ve come to learn that low key is the way forward.
It might just be me and how I like to live my life but living low key seems to bring about the most peace. Focusing on my own lane, staying out of conversations that involve gossip, worrying about what other people are doing or have got has been the way I’ve been trying to live for the last year or so. Now it’s not easy and I’m not saying I’ve perfected it because old habits die hard but the more I practice it, the better I become.
The saying “the grass is greener on the other side” is relevant to this topic because I feel most people let that phrase happen in their life because things like social media allow us to see into other peoples lives a lot more than in the past. But this is the thing, the grass isn’t greener on the other side, the grass is greenest where you water it. This is why I feel staying low key, working on yourself, your own life and “watering your own grass” is how we should all be living our lives.
It’s lovely seeing other people doing well don’t get me wrong but constantly checking up on other people won’t improve your own life.
I know it’s difficult because a lot of us value the opinion of others more than we should and we want to feel like we’re keeping up with the Joneses but one thing I realised a long time ago is that nobody’s life is perfectly in sync with everybody else. If everybody was in sync then we’d all do everything at the exact same time, we’d all get a job at the same time, buy a house at the same time, get married at the same time, be successful at the same time, etc.
But that simply isn’t the case.
Everybody’s life is happening at its own pace, yours will be different to mine and mine will be different to the next persons and so on. One thing I hope to get across is your life is completely and utterly unique to the next person and if your goals are bigger or more niche than the person next to you, your success may take a little longer and that’s completely fine. I think once you realise this and understand it, life becomes a little better.
Perspective is everything.
Live your life with your goals in mind, focus on yourself, stay in own your lane where you can work on yourself, worry about the things you can control and stay low key.
I believe if you follow those simple steps, you emerge out the other side as a better person.
Hope you’re all staying safe during these unbelievably mad times.
See you next week.
Oh yeah, wash your hands and practice your social distancing.
